Where Are You Going to Sit?
Imagine a table in the middle of the room and two people walked into the room. The neighbor with the need and you, the neighbor looking to meet the need. The table represents the issue or need and the chairs represent the two of you. There are two options you both can take.
One way is you can choose to sit on either side of the table and the neighbor in need can outline exactly what they believe they need done. Then, the neighbor who can help decides whether they have the resources, skills, and enough time to meet that need as it's outlined. Sometimes that transaction happens at face value and sometimes there is a bit of negotiation. In this situation, there becomes a battle of power. The neighbor in need tries to leverage the severity of their need and convice the volunteer to offer whatever they can give. The volunteer is often in state of self-preservation and often only wants to offer the bare minimum needed to solve the problem. Neither open themselves up to relationship. Therefor a transaction is negotiated and completed. Another way is that you both can choose to sit on the same side of the table and approach the issue together. The neighbor gets to share the need, the volunteer gets to ask questions, and they both begin to put everything on the table in order to solve the problem together. Sometimes the homeowner actually has more resource and ability than they thought and the encouragement of the volunteer gives them the push they've needed to solve the problem on their own. Sometimes the volunteer realizes they had misconceptions and things are different that they thought. In this situation, vulnerability shows up and it's no longer a battle of how can I get someone to do this for me or a battle of how much am I willing to give to someone. A relationship forms and a mutual agreement to help each other rather than do for each other starts to take place.
So, the question to ask when approaching NeighborLink projects is this....
How Are WE Going to Solve This? We have to ask this question because each of us on our own will never have enough resources to go around and if we don't get creative in our problem solving, then we'll never be fully satisfied.
Asking this question when approaching as many projects as you can will radically change the way you serve and understand solutions to community issues. It will help you see the posted requests on the website or other organizations you volunteer with as less as projects and more like the people they are. We're all neighbors, we're all children of God, and we all have a choice to help each other when needed. It's time to get on the same side of the table and ask how can "we" can solve the problem together.
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